A note to the burned out worship leader….

Dear Leader,

I first want to say that I know where you are coming from. This isn’t a letter from a book I read, this is real life. Ministry sounds simple and straight forward.  You come in late, you hang with friends, you drink coffee, and you write a set list every week. In all reality its dirty, time consuming, and puts a toll on your family. The outsider looking in doesn’t see that. How can I ask for help without sounding like I am weak or unable to do my job?  I am here to tell you that you are not alone.  If every leader was to be honest, we all struggle with burnout.  Its a common place.  My wife and I are just at the end of a season of craziness.  We have been spinning several plates trying to keep them all going while also learning how to do life going from 1 to 3 kids in the last year and a half.  I have contemplated quitting things but only realized that it was from a place of burnout and not from a place of seasons changing. Stop, slow down, and step back.  The thing that I have realized is that life will continue when I step back and relax. It will continue to move forward while I recover. Life doesn’t need me to move forward.  I get to be a part of this story.  What story am I writing?

Social media has been around and going strong now for about 10 years now. It has become second nature to most to be on your smart phone checking Facebook, posting pictures on Instagram, using Twitter to interact with your favorite TV show.  None of this is bad on its own but it pulls your mind away and doesn’t give you a chance to relax and disconnect. I will be the first to admit that my phone is always in my hand and I am easily distracted but its something that I am working on to be more intentional with my family when I am home.  I was recently at the National Worship Leader Conference in Dallas, TX and Ray Jones said,”Your family is your most important small group.” This has continued to resonate with me realizing that when I go to work tomorrow my work will still be there.  How can I be more intentional when I am home?

Lastly, don’t try and fix it by yourself. Creative people thrive on relationships.  What story are you writing? Burnout and leaving ministry isn’t a story I would want to read.  A story about boundaries and restoration is a story that I would love to read about!

Yours Truly,

A Husband, A Daddy, and a Worship Leader (in that order)